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It’s A Girl!

I can’t believe that when I was 20-24 I thought I would never have a baby of my own, and at 40 I am pregnant for the fourth time! Those years of torment helped me appreciate not only what a gift my children were, how necessary it is to have a serious talk before marriage about family  and children. If I had been honestly informed of my ex-husband’s known inability to have children, I still might have married him, I just wouldn’t have wasted so much time basically trying to get pregnant by myself. God lovingly allowed me to become immediately pregnant with my firstborn so that I didn’t have to spend another moment in despair.

After more than a decade of being the only girl in a house full of males (including the pets), I am finally going to have a partner in crime. I found out the baby is a girl and I cannot wait to share in “girl stuff”. I love my boys and I have loved doing things that they enjoy, but it’s just not the same. I can tell you that I’m not much of a shopper, but it’s all I can do not to spend every dime on all things pink and lacy. I’m not much of a girly girl myself, so I’m not expecting a diva. I could even handle a tomboy. Whatever she is, she will be a little princess, because her older brothers are going to spoil her rotten. I daresay there won’t be a boy brave enough to come within five miles of our house as long as there are big brothers around! This is going to be the adventure of a lifetime!

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Happy New Year!

So, I have a little less than a month before my ultrasound. Still don’t know if it’s a boy or girl. I read that someone did a study to find out the sex by determining certain factors in the ultrasound. I don’t know much about medicine or science, so I don’t know for sure what the study actually encompasses, but it showed that a certain ultrasound technician (they used the same one throughout the study) could predict sex with ninety-something percent accuracy at 12 weeks or less. The difference was in the amniotic sac, or umbilical cord, or something. If whatever was to the left of the baby, it was a girl. If something or other were on the right of the baby, it was a boy. I had an ultrasound at around 12 weeks. My situation is so different than all my other pregnancies, I can’t know anything for sure. I’ve given up trying to figure it out, but when I looked at my ultrasound, I thought it looked like they baby was to the right of the uterine wall. That really tells me nothing, but I’ve had other things that make me hopeful for a girl. There have been no male children born in our family since 2005. When we first became reproductive (myself and 3 siblings), everyone had girls. Then I had the first boy and everyone had a boy for the next 7 children. Six girls have been born since then. Two of them are grandchildren, so I don’t know if that counts, and one of my brothers has a hard time finding faithful partners, so none of his may count at all. Of course, I started the boy trend, so I might be the start of the next wave. Maybe I can eek out the last female before we revert back to males. Of course, our father was the oldest living child of three males in his family (four total, all male) and my mother was the youngest child of four with three half-brothers. All of my children survived infancy, so I statistically resemble my mother’s family. She is also quite a bit younger than her brothers, but she has a different father. My mother had two girls and two boys. My sister had two girls and two boys. My brother may have three daughters, or none. My youngest brother has two boys (one from a previous marriage) and three daughters (one set of twins). Obviously, I resemble none of them. If anything, my family has a slight statistical leaning toward a grouping of three and a single opposite sex child. Unfortunately, only myself, my mother, and my paternal grandmother have the same father for all children. Everyone else has at least two partners in reproduction.

I have 22 days until my ultrasound. Until then I have no way of knowing if I should buy/register for girly stuff or boy stuff. Three more weeks of searching for gender neutral items. If I don’t get a definite answer one way or the other on February 1, I am going to be the most frightening person to live with. Who wants to pick out two names? How can I stock up for a baby when everything is either football and trucks or hearts and bows? Even diapers are assigned by gender. Actually, I am using cloth diapers, so only the covers are patterned. Cloth diapers and breastfeeding. I will have an all-white bassinet. My nursery is a    woodland mountain scene with woodland creatures and the colors are spring green (for the aspen trees in May), a chocolate brown (trees and mountains), and white (again, aspens, and the mountains still have snow caps in May. Everything else must wait.Image